Things were too busy and intense to post during the "Special Hockey Extravaganza", but I want to get one post up right away.
I continually struggle with msk's "functioning level" and where he sits on the spectrum. During the Special Hockey tournament it was hard not to compare him to all the autistic kids that were there. Definitely on the low side verbally, disconnected from the game, not really connecting with teammates who were reaching out to him... I know it's never a good idea to compare, but it's hard not to...
And then, on Saturday evening, at the end of the tournament, there was a dinner and dance. And there was msk joyfully listening to the band, jumping and flapping. And it wasn't about function and futures. It was about happiness and community.
There were lots of smiles and fingers in ears and goofiness. And msk fit right in. And it's a good thing.
I love this so much. I'm so glad he had such a good time. I think that wherever your kid is on the spectrum, you can't help but make those comparisons. It's hard to see other kids being a part of it and watching your kid be disconnected, but I truly believe that they get it on whatever level matters to them. You are such a good mom for getting your kiddo out there and giving him that community and freedom to be himself. I'm sure if he could, he would tell you that too.
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